Thursday, March 22, 2007

Danielle

Danielle isn't feeling the best, not just your 'Oh Ive had a baby and now I'm blue' sort of feeling, but a deep rooted 'Oh I feel BAD' sort of feeling. It didn't surprise me, sadly Danielle has had a history of issues since she was about 12/13 and last year before falling pregnant with Bethany she was diagnosed with Bi-Polar.

We have been dealing with this episode for a couple of weeks now, watching over her and Beth, offering what support and guidance we can, staying connected I guess is the best we can do and its not easy.

In the depths of her depression she tries to push away those that love her the most, and tries to ignore the problem in the hope it will go away.

I had one of her friends, who I might add has only been a friend for the last three months or so try and tell me to leave her alone, and tell me I had no idea what I was talking about, Danielle was fine.

Well Danielle ISN'T fine, she just isn't telling THE friend that and it took all of my newly found (the 101 commandments when you join the public service make everyone behave) self control not to slap the silly little tart and throw her out of Danielle's place.

At the moment Danielle is weaning Beth so she can go back on her medication and she starts counselling again next week.

Until then I guess we continue on, doing what we can to make sure that Bethany and her are ok without being too overwhelming and taking over from her because she NEEDS to know she is still responsible, we will always be there for them both BUT this is HER responsibility and she needs to take control of her life.

Its such a delicate balance, cant do to much or she will expect it, cant do to little or you aren't supportive enough.


3 comments:

Lea~MSF said...

Just found your blog honey...what a great Mum you are & I just know you will be exactly what Danielle needs in this very delicate time.
Love to you
Lea xxx

Kate said...

How hard it must be for Danielle feeling as she does. But I am so happy that you are her mum Trudi as you will always look out for her and the gorgeous Bethany. Hopefully, Danielle will look back at this difficult time in her life and be thankful for all of the good that has come out of it.

k8

Anonymous said...

HI, just found your blog through another, what a great mum you are!
You sound very aware of what you should and shouldn't be doing , seems like you have the perfect balance. I also think that we learn the biggest lessons and experience the greatest growth through our hard times, and your support will be something she'll never forget.

take care
Rachael